A reader asked, “What is the best way to compliment a cosplayer without coming off as a creeper?”
Honestly, it’s really simple. Just compliment, share you love of the character and they will do the same! It’s seriously that simple. The safest thing to say is, “Your costume looks amazing!” or something along those lines.
Here are a few tips on what not to do…
- Do NOT touch any part of the costume. Costumes have been planned and worked on for extended periods of time. If something breaks it can be a pain to have to start over. Ask before you touch any part of a costume.
- Rather than asking where they bought a certain piece, always assume that the cosplayer handmade everything. They’ll correct you if you’re wrong.
- Cosplayers are always more than willing to talk to you about their costume. However, if they’re posing for pictures, be patient and let them pose for their photographers. Once they’re done they will gladly talk to you.
- If a cosplayer is wearing something revealing, do not just creep on his or her body. Compliment him or her on the character representation. Even if the cosplayer prides him/herself on their body, it still gets creepy
- I cannot stress this one enough – Do not, I repeat, DO NOT EVER grab a cosplayer. ASK FIRST. You can ruin their costume AND make them uncomfortable. They are not there for your amusement or to be manhandled. Do not assume that they want to hug you, touch you or anything like that. (Did I get my point across?)
- Don’t assume that they’re single. Don’t ask for their number. Don’t blatantly hit on them. (Especially with their significant other is standing right there, holding their stuff so you can get a picture with them…) Just… don’t do this.
- Don’t compare costumes. You can say things like, “You’re on of the best ____ I’ve seen!” but never say something like, “You’re way better than mine/the other ____ I saw earlier.”or even worse, “The ___ I saw earlier was so much better than yours.”
- This last one might just be a pet peeve of mine but, don’t just randomly snap a picture of me. Ask and let me pose for a picture. It’s the polite thing to do.