A guild (also known as clans, companies, or crews) in an MMORPG is a long-term group working towards a common goal – usually things like endgame content, PvP (player vs player) or even helping other people level their characters. It’s a great way to socialize and find groups. I’ve been the leader of a couple of different guilds and I’m going to share with you some real life lessons I’ve learned from them.
1- You can’t please everyone.
This is something that I’ve always had a hard time with. However, in the wonderful world of MMOs it is something that you have to learn. There is always going to be someone that is upset with what you’re doing or not doing. It isn’t the end of the world and you certainly don’t have to go out of your way to make that one person happy. It turns out that if you stick to your guns things usually work out in the end. In the gaming world, you’ll deal with trolls and it’s the same in real life. There are people out there that just want to bring other people down because they’re unhappy with their own life. Ignore them and they’ll go away.
2- It’s okay to drop the drama.
Is there someone in your guild (or life) that is just constantly causing drama? Drop them. No, seriously, just drop them. They’re not doing you any favors. It’s not worth your time to keep up with them and the drama. I’ve ran into this so many times in my guilds. It’s just plain annoying and childish behavior. Handle the real issues and ignore the childish ones. People will sort it out for themselves. Don’t tolerate hateful/hurtful behavior. It took me a long time to learn to not “feed the troll”.
3- Being nice goes a LONG way.
If you’re a nice and genuine person, you’re going to succeed. You might not have the best of the best but you’ll have a great group of friends that are loyal. For example, it’s always the douchebag player that gets kicked from the dungeon – there is a reason for this. EVERYONE was a newbie at one point. Why be mean to the new players? Don’t ruin their fun because you’re frustrated; instead take some time and educate them on what they’re doing wrong or just give them help in general. You’re making the community better and not ruining an experience for someone else. My most faithful and genuine friends (and guildies!) have come from situations like this.
4- Schedules and organization and communication.
If you plan things out and have a backup plan, things go a lot smoother. Set a schedule for “raids” or you know… real life things (i.e. blogging, cleaning, homework, deadlines) and STICK TO IT. Write it down, put it in your phone, set reminders, do whatever you have to do to make it work. In a raid you have to rely on other people to show up and know what they’re doing. If ONE person doesn’t know what they’re doing, it could end up wasting everyone’s time. As the leader, you have to make sure you have planned the schedule, told everyone what they need to know/research, and keep up communications with everyone in case of last minute cancellations or changes.
5- Lead by example.
You want an active group? Be active. You want people to be nice and friendly? Be friendly and outgoing. You want the group to be recruiting other members? Recruit other members. It all comes back to you. If you have a poor attitude and just don’t care, no one else will either.
What things have you learned from gaming?